Mar 16, 2013 - Uncategorized    1 Comment

Develop a Backbone, Not a Wishbone

Judge Philip B. Gilliam of Denver, Colorado, wrote a message to teenagers that’s making the rounds, and I think it’s worth repeating. Judge Gilliam was a highly respected judge in the Denver Juvenile Court and Juvenile Hall from 1940 until his death in 1975. During his time on the bench, he spent his time protecting children and ensuring their proper treatment in the court system.

I think it applies to more than just teen-agers. It’s just good advice.

Judge Gilliam’s letter appeared as follows.

Open letter to Teen-ager

Always we hear the plaintive cry of the teen-ager. What can we do?…Where can we go?

The answer is GO HOME!

Hang the storm windows, paint the woodwork. Rake the leaves, mow the lawn, shovel the walk. Wash the car, learn to cook, scrub some floors. Repair the sink, build a boat, get a job.

Help the minister, priest, or rabbi, the Red Cross, the Salvation Army. Visit the sick, assist the poor, study your lessons. And then when you are through – and not too tired – read a book.

Your parents do not owe you entertainment. Your city or village does not owe you recreational facilities.

The world does not owe you a living…You owe the world something.

You owe it your time and your energy and your talents so that no one will be at war or in poverty or sick or lonely again.

Grow up; quit being a crybaby. Get out of your dream world and develop a backbone, not a wishbone, and start acting like a man or a lady.

You’re supposed to be mature enough to accept some of the responsibility your parents have carried for years.

They have nursed, protected, helped, appealed, begged, excused, tolerated and denied themselves needed comforts so that you could have every benefit. This they have done gladly, for you are their dearest treasure.

But now, you have no right to expect them to bow to every whim and fancy just because selfish ego instead of common sense dominates your personality, thinking and request.

In Heaven’s name, grow up and go home!

– South Bend Tribune, Sunday, Dec. 6, 1959.

1 Comment

  • THIS SAYS IT ALL! IT’S HOW I WAS RAISED AND HOW I RAISED MY DAUGHERS. WHAT HAS HAPPENED? OUR “HAVE IT YOUR WAY” GENERATION WANTS EVERYTHING NOW WITHOUT EFFORT. LET’S ALL GET A BACKBONE AND THROW AWAY THE WISHBONES IN OUR LIVES. IF YOU HAVE A DREAM, WORK TOWARD IT. DO SOMETHING WITH YOUR LIFE. DON’T WAIT FOR SOMETHING TO HAPPEN AND STOP USING EXCUSES. LIFE IS A LOT OF WORK, BUT IF WE ALL PULL TOGETHER THIS WILL BE A BETTER WORLD.

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